Sunday, December 21, 2008

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the 7 steps to happily ever after
by Marjorie Ingall


step 1: find a shared dream for your life together
successful couples quickly develop a mindfulness of us of being coupled. the best partners never lose sight of the fact that they're working together to achieve the same big dreams. when you share a dream, you're a heck of a lot more likely to make that dream come true.

step 2: ignite (& reignite) a sexual connection
in any good relationship, sex is way more than just a physical act. it's crucial for the health of your emotional connection too. it's something only the two of you share, it makes you both feel warm & loved, it draws you back together when you're drifting apart & it's a whole lot of fun...

step 3: choose each other as your first family
whatever your challenges (an overprotective mom or an overly critical father-in-law) you have to outline together the boundaries between you & all of the families connected to you. not only will you feel stronger as a united front but when you stick to your shared rules, all that family baggage will weigh on you a lot less.

step 4: learn how to fight right
fighting right doesn't just mean not throwing produce, it means staying focused on the issue at hand & respecting each other's perspective. even if you fight a lot, when you can find a way to turn fights toward the positive (with a smile, a quick apology & an expression of appreciation for the other person) the storm blows away fast & that's what matters.

step 5: find a balance between time for two and time for you
when it comes to togetherness, every couple has its own unique sweet spot. with the right balance, neither partner feels slighted or smothered.

step 6: build a best friendship
happy couples are each other's haven, they can count on the other person to listen & try to meet their needs. when you're true friends, you acknowledge & respect what the other person is (you don't try to control or change them). this creates a sense of safety & security when you're together (you know you're valued for who you are & you see the value in your partner).

step 7: face down a major challenge together
all too often, the stress of a crisis can pull a couple apart. but the good news is, when you do make it through in one piece, you might just find yourselves tighter than ever.

source: redbookmag

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